Storytelling in Presentations: The Story You Shouldn't Tell (Part 2)

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of telling a deeply personal story, only to be overwhelmed by your emotions? It's a common experience, and one that can leave both you and your audience feeling unsettled. In my previous message, I shared my opinion that you should avoid telling a story that makes you cry in front of an audience. If you missed that message, I recommend checking your inbox and watching it first. Today, I want to address a question that often follows that opinion: "Kindra, I really want to tell that story… is there any way I still can?"

The answer is yes, you can tell your emotional story, but only when you can do so without crying. Here are a few strategies to help you get to that point.

1. Give the Story Time

One of the main reasons you might struggle to control your emotions while telling a story is that you haven't fully processed it yet. Perhaps there are still emotions you're working through, or maybe there are unresolved loose ends. You might still be in the middle of the story, and that's perfectly fine. As a human, you are entitled to take the time you need to process your experiences. However, as a presenter, you have a responsibility to your audience to provide them with the best experience possible. Breaking down in the middle of your story is not the best experience for them.

One of the silver linings of enduring challenges is that, once you're on the other side, you can share the story of that challenge with others. The key phrase here is "once you are on the other side." Be patient. You will get there, but don't share your story until you are truly ready.

2. Practice, Practice, Practice

Once you've given your story enough time and you feel you are on the other side of it, repetition is your next assignment. You need to tell that story many, many times without an audience to ensure you can make it through when it really counts. Say it out loud in the car, in front of the mirror, in the shower, and before you go to sleep at night. Then, once you've said it to yourself numerous times, tell it to a friend. Tell it to a group of friends, call your mom and tell it to her on the phone.

Imagine the story that makes you cry is a jagged piece of wood. The repetition – telling your story over and over again – acts as sandpaper to smooth out the jagged edges that can catch you off guard and knock you off course. Once you've told your emotional story to a variety of test groups and are able to make it all the way through to the end without breaking down, congratulations, your story is finally ready. Those who hear it will be better for it.

By following these strategies, you'll be able to share your story effectively and provide the best experience for your audience. Remember, it's not just about telling your story; it's about telling it in a way that resonates and connects with your audience without overwhelming them with your emotions.